Becoming Ecosexual – Why We Are All Polyamorous Pt. 1

“A world where it is safe to love, is a world where it is safe to live” – Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio   I sit down on the bench as a feeling of deflation brings me down. Here again. She just left my visual space in pursuit of a choice to be with someone else. My heart twists with the pain of a deep wound being exposed and emanating from my chest. […]

The Soul Mate Delusion Part Three: The Love Seeds of Genie’s Wisdom

Despite there being a number of poor messages in the Disney movies I watched during my childhood (most I am only recently becoming aware of), there are moments in the stories that glimmer with innocent truths that sparked my imagination and idealism. One movie in particular, and hands down my personal favourite, happened to contain two of the best seeds of relationship advice I have ever come across (and yes, […]

The Soul Mate Delusion Part Two: The Fullness of Boundaries

I find it to be inevitable that one’s personal journey into the question of “Who am I?” leads to an expanded sense of one’s self. The cycles of life and death remind us that we have to let go of everything we consider to be ‘me’ at some point. We practice with our toys as children, discovering the pain of a broken expression of play. We experience it as youth, […]

The Soul Mate Delusion Part One: Why I Can’t Be Your Superman

Yes, I recognize the voice of the critic. The thoughts of doubt in the present that arise from a broken sense of idealism of the past. The character that reminds you to calm your hopes and excitements about the future because, well, maybe it won’t come to pass. The self-sabotaging actions that are your way of destroying before you get destroyed. The heart that has walled itself up because it […]

The Art of Feedback: Deconstructing Truth Through Humility

When I think back on my life I observe many moments in which I react to words spoken and written to me from others. Often, these reactionary instances arise when the other person is expressing a truth to me that I do not want to hear. I get defensive. I get angry. I take it personally. Sometimes these truths are simply fears that I myself am thinking, and yet do […]